Dating. That seductive dance two people do, in an attempt to find Mr. or Mrs. Right!
We are all unique, and we’re all gonna make one special person very happy one day. But first, you have to find them! To some, dating is more like a sporting event. To others, it is like going on a big game hunt. But for most, dating is a daunting, nerve-wracking, and at times, scary process.
You’re trying to impress her without coming on too strong—or worse, looking desperate. You want to seem smart but not condescending. Funny but not obnoxious. You don’t want to talk about trivial matters, but at the same time, know you can’t get into anything too serious. Politics, religion, and past partners are all off the table. There are so many rules!
So in this article, we’ve thought we’d go over some first date tips directly from behind the curtain! Let’s see what women suggest men should do on a first date, so it will be enjoyable for both parties.
Exclusive info from “the other team” coming right up!
First date TIP no.1 – Make plans before
So you’re asking her out, right? Try to have a plan made before, like suggest a certain place and hour. Make date plans for somewhere you’ll feel comfortable. Maybe a nice little coffee shop, maybe a fancier place for dinner. Give her options and then let her choose ☺ Yes, women like that, and they’ll appreciate you’ve given some time to think about what might be fun for you to do together.
Take the lead.
Although equality is important in every relationship, women secretly hark after traditional values and want a man to show his assertiveness. When speaking before the date, men should try to ascertain what sort of woman he will be dating – does she prefer bars, pubs, or something off-the-wall? If you’re unsure, stick to a classic location such as a nice cocktail bar – women say they like to be impressed.
First date TIP no.2 – Get your grooming on
Look and actually be confident. First impressions are always important. To find your perfect outfit, in which you look and also feel very good!
Women like to see guys that take care of themselves. And of course – even if we wanna believe otherwise – looks matters. In fact, just try to be nice and clean. Maybe get a nice haircut pre-date. Take care of your teeth as well, and just be well-groomed.
The better you look, the more confident you’ll feel, and this has a direct effect on your first date with the woman you like.
Tip: If you drive and go pick her up, clean your car as well.
First date TIP no.3 – Be a gentleman
Let’s be serious, who doesn’t like a gentleman?
Women today don’t need over-the-top chivalry, but that doesn’t mean you should slack on your manners. Letting the door slam in her face, talking down to waiters, and spending the entire date glued to your phone are all behaviors that she won’t find attractive.
No matter how modern she is, a woman wants doors held open for her. She also wants you to have good table manners. At the very least, you should try to be the gentleman your mother raised you to be.
And a general rule for every date: Stay off your phone. Turn it off or at least try the silent mode, so your date doesn’t get interrupted. It’s rude.
First date TIP no. 4 – Keep the conversation fun
Don’t be too serious.
Joking around with your date is a great way to break the ice. Women like funny guys. Humor is an excellent tool. But don’t go overboard. If you start getting heavy into politics, non-PC humor, or nagging, she’s going to ask for the check and run like the wind.
Try to keep the humor light. Find out something you both agree on. For instance, maybe you both think the coffee from the 23rd street coffee shop is the worst ever. Joke about that together. But don’t get out of control and start ranking every coffee in town on a first date. Funny can quickly spiral into weird, and she could start thinking you don’t know anything else, and you’re not so bright after all.
Tip: Also, avoid the “ex” conversation. It’s a total mood killer and 100% unnecessary on the first date!
First date TIP no.5 – Book the second date
It’s a fact that women can often be more anxious than men, particularly when it comes to dating. Women will expect men to suggest a second date straight after the first date if the evening has gone well.
If this hasn’t been arranged or suggested quickly, women will worry that the guy didn’t actually like them and will get shy. From a man’s point of view, they do not see the urgency in arranging a second date – they prefer to wait and play it cool, so they don’t come across too keen.
But since we’re talking from the ladies point of view here, try to book the second date as soon as possible. They will appreciate that more than you might think now 😉
First date TIP no.6 – Share the bill
Women are emancipated. They are more independent nowadays and can take care of themselves. So… don’t be weird about splitting the bill.
Don’t buckle down on, not allowing her to split the bill with you. We live in a society where we can have egalitarian partnerships. We’re all making money. Therefore it’s OK for partners to split the bill. If your lady date really wants to, consider letting her. If you’d like to pick up the check, be polite about it.
Advice: If it’s a first date, let them know that you’d really like to treat her.
Explain that you’re totally willing to go Dutch on your next date, but since she’s agreed to spend her evening with you, you’d like to get this one. If they are really insistent, don’t be weird about it. Just split the bill. It’s not a test. They just want to be equals and establish boundaries. And remember, just because you buy dinner does not, in any way, mean a person owes you anything, not a hug, a kiss, or sex.
So there you have it. Straight from women’s notebooks and thoughts ☺ Six dating tips that can help you have a great first date and leaves your beautiful lady wanting a second.
Let’s face it – dating can be scary, for both men and women.
But if you follow these tips directly from the beautiful ladies that were willing to share them with us, you’re gonna see how easy to put in practice they are, and you’re gonna be feeling better about yourself when you’re going to have a great date!
The better you feel, the better you’re gonna do, and the more confident you’re gonna be on that date.
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