Here’s the thing. Confidence and self-esteem is not something mystical or magical like you either got it or don’t. It’s something that can be developed.
The aim of this article is to help you feel amazing about yourself. We know how important having confidence is. The problem, however, is something called insecurity, which is always getting in the way of us unlocking our inner awesomeness.
So we’re gonna talk about some things you can do, that will dramatically and directly impact your confidence.
Today we are tossing you the confidence keys. So here are 10 secrets of building your confidence:
# Secret no.1 – Eliminate negative people from your life
Negativity is highly contagious! When you surround yourself with negative people in your life, they directly impact your confidence in an obviously negative way.
Negative people can also be called ‘energy vampires’ that, through their constant negativity, can suck the energy out of you, bring you down and make you feel less of yourself.
# Secret no. 2 – Stop gossiping
Surprising? Maybe, but gossip will have a direct negative impact on you and your confidence. When you stop, cut out the noise, and simply don’t have time to talk c*r*a*p about other people, means you’re too busy being awesome and focusing on yourself!
# Secret no. 3 – Compliment others
You might find this one interesting, to say the least, but how do you complementing others build up your confidence?
Simple! How does it feel to get a compliment? It feels incredible, right? It also feels incredible giving them.
Here’s the interesting thing: when somebody gives you a compliment, you automatically like them more, right? So, giving compliments makes you more liked, therefore boosting your self-confidence through the nice way others see you.
The other upside about giving compliments is that it helps you develop your people’s skills and increases your social proudness.
# Secret no. 4 – Stop exaggerating with social media
We’re not saying stop socializing with friends, or seeing what’s new. But being on Facebook too much, for example, can make you feel worse about yourself.
One of the problems is that social media gives you just a little peek of somebody’s life. And it usually is only the best piece. People don’t post crappy things. People don’t post the drama. They’re just telling you they’re on vacation, or so in love, or so productive and creative…
So you’ll just end up comparing yourself with other people’s lives. But YOU need to focus on YOU. Do things that make you happy and live your life, not others.
Plus if you focus on yourself, you will not be boring.
You can go on social media occasionally, but try to limit yourself. This little and simple trick will do wonders on your confidence and self-esteem.
# Secret no. 5 – Do something good for your body every day
You look good, you feel good. Simple as that. No need to linger on this one. We all know what it means.
It doesn’t matter how much, how little. It may be simple things like taking a walk or 10 easy push-ups. But it will definitely help in the long run, not to mention it helps your mental health and of course, confidence when you see yourself looking better and better every day.
This habit will allow you to look younger even after 40.
Secret trick: You can also do something good for your style as well. Every month or week or how often you can afford, replace an old piece of clothing with a new one! Out with the old and shabby which you don’t even wear anymore, and in with the new, stylish and posh 😉
# Secret no. 6 – Stop overspending
Money… such a sensitive subject but one of those things that people usually feel so insecure about. We think we should have more, make more, have more stuff.
But if you don’t budget responsibly, you’re gonna overspend and get into debt. Debt sucks and makes you feel very insecure. So point proven.
Want to be more confident? Don’t overspend, stick to the budget, and be more responsible with money.
# Secret no. 7 – Develop your brain
Feed your brain knowledge! Stimulate it, make it think. What is the sexiest organ of all? The brain.
The smarter you get, the sexier you get, the more people like you, respect you, want to be near you. And this, of course, brings out the self-esteem, self-worth feelings. We all wanna be liked and popular. Intelligence will bring you this. Your brain can and will make you successful and confident!
# Secret no. 8 – Stop taking so many selfies
It’s scientifically proven that taking selfies and looking at yourself all the time is an incredible way of making you feel insecure. Because it’s a fine line between being constructive with your own self like reflection and criticism, and destructive. And obsessively taking selfies is definitely not going to help.
# Secret no. 9 – Help somebody every day
You cannot imagine how amazing you’ll feel after you do something nice for somebody.
Not because you get money or because other people saw it, it’s just because you did something good. It is just a self-esteem shot like you would not believe. It gives you confidence in your own powers that you can help others in need.
# Secret no. 10 – Do something that scares you
Everybody’s got that thing that would like to do, and we’re envious when we see others doing it, but we just hesitate, and we’re scared… You don’t know the outcome, you’re just not sure…
But just suck it in, take a leap and just do it! What’s the worst that could happen? You fail, it doesn’t work out, you’re not as good as you think you should be… Who cares? You’ll feel better about yourself because you finally got up your ass and did it ☺
Pushing your own limits will, no doubt, make you incredibly confident and put your self-esteem up high!
So there you have it, a few secrets that will help you stop the negative habits and develop some new, productive ones that’ll instantly help you feel and be more confident every single day.