You might wonder how to be nice to people? It sounds simple, just be nice to people, but sometimes isn’t.
Humans have evolved into being the most social species on earth. The most incremental proof of this evolutionary trait is to be found in our immediate environment at all times: Technology, Health Care, Philosophy, Education, and so on.
Without the strength of this evolutionary trait, mankind wouldn’t have been able to create all that I’ve mentioned above.
So it makes me wonder if being genuinely nice to the ones surrounding us will help build healthier relationships that lead to healthier intentional actions that will ultimately lead to purposeful creations of the human psyche.
How to be nice to people ?
It was only natural for me to listen to my curiosity’s request to be satisfied with this in mind.
So here are 6 things you can do to be nicer to people!
1. Be Positive and Happy with Yourself.
If being a nicer person towards others is your goal, first off, you have to learn how to be more positive and love yourself more.
Some people try to be nice to others and forget about themselves. As it may not seem like a big issue, you need to understand that not being able to have a positive opinion about yourself will get in the way of being nicer to others.
How to be more positive about yourself?
Take care of yourself like you are the most important person on the planet.
Don’t get me wrong; you do not need to be egocentric as that may make others believe that you are a narcissistic person.
But after all, you need to understand that you truly are the most important to yourself, and that’s how everyone needs to think.
Even if you seek to be kind to your friends and family, never forget to make yourself your top priority.
Your primary purpose in life is to better yourself and fulfill your dreams.
Therefore being nice to yourself is the most crucial criterion you need to accomplish when looking to be a better person in general.
2. Do Not Be Shy!
Even when walking on the street and passing a stranger, don’t hold back from giving a happy smile and a greeting such as “Hello,”” Hi!” or even “Have a great day!”.
People can start a chain reaction easily by being nice to each other, so next time you make someone happy, that certain human being may continue to do so too.
Even a simple nod or wave can start this chain that we need to better ourselves.
3. Be a Good Listener.
Always listen to others when they are talking to you, even if the subject isn’t something that catches your attention.
Being a good listener not only shows that you are improving in the “being nice” department, but it also may help you by learning from what others have to say.
It improves your communication skills, and you can gain people’s trust by listening to their problems.
An important observation is never to be a dismissive listener (telling a person to do things the way you see it to be fair). Instead, be an empathetic listener and try to listen to what that person has to say.
Practicing being an empathetic listener will change your future relationships for the better because when you think about it, the person that is in front of you will unconsciously feel like you created a safe space for them to share their thoughts without the risk of being judged.
Trust is the word that comes to mind when I think about the traits of a good listener.
4. Help your friends.
When friends seek help from you, do not be critical or negative towards them. Try to be as positive as possible and always keep a big smile on your face when trying to help them.
Always look for the positive side in any situation given at any point. There are always two sides to a situation: the positive one and the negative one. Dig out the positive side and make your friend feel realize that you want to help them and do it while also following their perspective on the problem.
Praise any achievements made by someone and boost their confidence as much as you can.
If you don’t know how to do it, here is a guide on how to build your confidence.
Even when someone is letting off some negative steam, try to make them take the right side by being positive all the time, and do not fall into being negative yourself.
5. Be Humble.
Never think that you are better than others. You’re an individual, but everyone can go through tough times, and being nice to others will always make everyone’s life so much easier.
Don’t brag or have a big ego. Not only it makes others feel bad about themselves, but it also makes most people think less of you since, let’s be honest, no one wants someone that brags all the time around them.
Never judge people if you do not fully know them and never make assumptions about someone based on how they look or speak. First impressions never generate the truth.
You need to be careful not to do anything like this as it may make others make assumptions about you.
Yet again, there is a chain reaction happening.
As the saying says and I quote, “never judge a book by its cover.”
6. Be Sincere with Everyone.
Never try to be nice while looking to get something in return from someone. That is basically the opposite of being nice. Never be two-faced. Do not brag or become a backstabber.
Being nice to people is gaining their trust. And by doing anything stated above, you are betraying it. It breaks the whole purpose of being nice after doing so many good things for your close ones.
Never take part in gossip about other people, even if you are trying to integrate into a group. If that group finds it fine, expect them to do it to you too. It’s bad karma. It makes you look bad, not nicer.
Conclusion on how to be nice to people
Being nice is always a good thing to do, and it may even help you better yourself, so never skip on doing good for someone else and never hold grudges on people.
Everyone deserves forgiveness. Be a better person, and by doing so, you might make other people be better themselves!
If you are already pursuing the quest to be nice to people, you are a nice person. Considering this, do not be afraid to speak up your mind when needed.
Authenticity might come at a price, but losing yourself can cost you a lot more than losing the attention of a certain person.