Could we really say that we love ourselves? Do you know a person who is fully happy with themselves? Do you have a hard time trying to accept yourself?
It will always be easier to focus on your downs rather than your ups, but constantly doing this may cause serious damage to your mental health. Therefore, everybody should try their best to be the best version of themselves, considering the uniqueness everybody holds in their personality.
In this article, we will talk about how you could start your self-love journey and learn to love yourself.
First, let’s take a look at why you really need to try your best to love yourself.
Why Is It Important to Love Yourself?
Self-love is the key ingredient to a happy life. It improves everything in your way: may it be your job, your hobbies, your free time, your stress levels, your relationships with others, but most importantly? Your relationship with yourself. You can only take so much from life when you limit yourself. Therefore, you must try to have a nice, relaxing life.
Here are the steps you need to take to love yourself and be a better you:
1. Take Care of Yourself
This is maybe the most obvious tip, but rather a very important one, mostly because even if it is indeed this obvious, people forget to do it a lot of times. Take your time to pamper yourself, maybe read that book you have been wondering about, go to that restaurant you heard from a colleague or enjoy a nice nap after a long day at work. Whatever it may be, allowing yourself to enjoy time with yourself allowed your body to be at its best.
2. Reward Yourself
You need to celebrate your achievements. When others win, you celebrate their accomplishments. Why not celebrate your own? You deserve it, just as much as you deserve that piece of cake or that evening out!
3. Trust Yourself
An important part of self-love is the self-trust process. The most rewarding feeling about your gut feeling is when you actually listen to it. You should do the same when you make some bigger decisions; if you want to do something, you should motivate yourself to do it; therefore, you should trust yourself that you can do it. Sometimes it’s not all about the reward; it’s about the process itself, the hard work, but if you put your mind up to something, believe in it.
4. Allow Yourself to Take a Break
If work is a big part of your life, this may be hard, but everybody deserves a break sometimes, take a few moments a day, may they be a few minutes or even an hour, but just relax, enjoy a coffee, watch a movie, reading a book, meditate, take a nice relaxing bubble bath. Everything in your mind will be clearer and lighter. If they say an apple a day keeps the doctor away, then a few minutes of free time a day keeps the stress away!
5. Try Something New
You might learn something you like about yourself by getting your hands on something you have never tried before. It may seem time-consuming, not effective, or too much of a hustle, but it’s worth it, and things take time until they become a routine. Also, picking up a hobby from where you have left it is a big thing, or just searching for something you never thought you could like.
Take, for example, if you like reading conspiracy theories and history, you also could take into consideration quantum physics and discover the tie between the multiple universes theory. The thing is that everyone could try something new. The will is what it sometimes misses. So by getting into something new, you may discover something loveable about you too!
6. Make a List of Your Accomplishments
Writing down what you have achieved may be a really rewarding thing for you and a big helper in your self-love journey. You may have even forgotten about some things over time, but seeing them on paper will most likely frame a more colored full picture of yourself. You deserve recognition, mostly from yourself, considering that you are the number 1 fan or hater of yours. You choose.
7. Forgive Yourself
Having something on your chest constantly may really cause you some problems. This is why you need to let go of unwanted sorrows. You have all the time in the world to be sad, but why do it? Focus on the wonderful things that you have done so far, look at the list from above, and think, “Oh, I did all those things, why worry about this when I could feast for that!”
8. Don’t Compare Yourself to Others.
Even though it is easier to look around us and not at us, it is very important to realize that everybody has its own good and bad features. Even if that is about looks, jokes, social skills, wealth, or relationships, the only part where you can have control is your life and that only. So try your best to never give up and look at your side, your heart, your mind, your life.
9. Say “NO” When You Won’t Feel Like It.
Time is precious; mental health is precious; your level of interest is precious, take everything you do with at least acceptance and leave alone the circumstances where you do not feel comfortable. It is okay to cancel; it is okay to not like something. It is okay to not be the “nice person” constantly if you do not want to because the people that care for you will value you as you are.
You are a wonderful human being if you allow yourself to see it and work for it to be like that. The self-love journey is a “journey” for a reason, but it takes time. In the end, it is all worth it. Smiling at yourself after a long hard day is the biggest achievement.